Want to know why you are unsuccessful with women? It might masquerade as shyness, nerves, neediness, lack of style, bad breath, or body odor. Want to know the real answer?

It??s simple and it??s true??

Insecurity

I cover this in detail in my ebook, How To Get A Girlfriend, but for now let??s accurately define security. Then, let??s consider how this relates to being attractive. Let??s also try to keep this simple, because this is a topic we cover at length in our products and consultations which takes time to get handled. Let me give you our definition of security:

??A willingness to accept myself as I am, strengths and weaknesses and then the determination to work towards a healthy ideal for myself.??

A man who is secure realizes his weaknesses, and then addresses them. Some weaknesses (better known as challenges) are tougher to handle than others. A patient, deliberate effort may have to follow.

If a guy has bad breath, for example, is it because he just ate a dish filled with garlic or does he suffer from gingivitis? If it??s the garlic causing the problem, his problem is easily remedied by a bit of time and some mouthwash. If he has gingivitis or halitosis, the challenge becomes larger and will take more time to surmount. (Although, he should carry some Cool Mint Listerine PocketPaks with him at all times)

A guy who is secure with himself likely never encounters a challenge like bad breath, or if he does, he handles it right away.

An insecure guy will be too lazy to take the action, or will unconsciously reject the reality that he has bad breath. His fragile self-esteem will not accept the information, thus he continues to create bad impressions on other people due to his own unwillingness.

This mini-example can translate to virtually any challenge which we encounter through our lives. Most guys live lives that are so out of balance, that a woman might initially like you, but when she eventually sees the chaos that follows you around (whether it be bad breath, flailing friendships, insecurity, lack of focus, endless hours surfing the web, messy apartment, the list goes on??) she will never really see you as a viable companion because she knows, intuitively, and biologically, that you are not a man in the truest sense. You are not someone who can provide security??thusly you are not attractive to her.

Here is where we separate the men from the boys. The boys right now are thinking, ??This is a load of BS. A bunch of feel good jargon. This will never work for me.?? They are right, it never will until they decide to face their lives and live like a man.

A man sees this and realizes that it is time, now, to step up to the plate and take responsibility. He sees that he can get what is rightfully his. That time is now.

Women are seeking a man who is secure with himself, and is able to provide it to her consistently.

These men reflect it with everything they do ?C they always seem to be in control, they are sensitive to the needs of the moment, they rise to the occasion, they have a focused purpose in their life, and are comfortable in their own skin.

Their life naturally validates them internally, and thusly, they feel complete.

They are attractive, naturally.

So, when you give that guy the ten magically perfect things to say to a woman, he only needs five, and even then he has overdone it??

Let me be clear ?C I am not saying that you have to be rich or to have fully realized all of your goals in order to be successful with women.

What I am saying is that it is critical to be on the path pursuing your goals. Men who live with passion and direction are magnets for women because they are attractive.

Quality women are desperate for men whose lives are focused, balanced, and filled with purpose.

In conclusion!:

The Single Most Perfect Piece Of Advice That I Can Give You Is: You Must Get Your Life In Order And Moving Forward To Have Anything Close To A Meaningful Relationship With A Quality Woman.

Thanks for your time guys, and best of luck!